tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7618574245608271938.post659143023616240923..comments2023-03-24T10:05:48.313-04:00Comments on Mean Mommy: To wean or not to weanAshleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13923656564379426419noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7618574245608271938.post-17934537262344987052007-11-13T16:33:00.000-05:002007-11-13T16:33:00.000-05:00I totally remember this! I thought I'd feel horrib...I totally remember this! I thought I'd feel horrible when the last nursing came along... but it didn't happen that way. It just kind of ended when the time was right. And it was fine.MadMadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11550335108031470562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7618574245608271938.post-6711002293835776352007-11-13T07:26:00.000-05:002007-11-13T07:26:00.000-05:00This is a hard crossroads...we hit it at one point...This is a hard crossroads...we hit it at one point with my daughter, and then moved past it and I ended up nursing her until she was 21 months old. She really needed the nursing to fall asleep and so that was the impetus to finally call it quits. I still mourn it, though.Aliki2006https://www.blogger.com/profile/15763865834765963343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7618574245608271938.post-28746596722431005772007-11-10T18:33:00.000-05:002007-11-10T18:33:00.000-05:00Hmm. This is just like my third. I finally just ga...Hmm. This is just like my third. I finally just gave up. She was VERY upset for about three days and then that was it, her bottle became her new best friend. She was only ten months old at the time though, one day I had just had enoght with all her 'fooling around' and ended the nursing. I still feel sort of guilty about that....but at seven now, she seems to love me.Leannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15592530066607069238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7618574245608271938.post-43328565812242157092007-11-09T18:54:00.000-05:002007-11-09T18:54:00.000-05:00Honestly, her behavior sounds symbolic of how kids...Honestly, her behavior sounds symbolic of how kids tend to treat their parents (especially mommies). They will treat us exactly as badly as we let them. Growing up, we loved our mom dearly, but she let us walk all over her and we did. I often find myself telling my kids, 'I don't deserve this.' And meaning it. And then doing something about it (usually based on Love and Logic).<BR/><BR/>If you're asking for advice, here's mine. If not, sorry, you can ignore me. I know everyone has to figure out what's best for their particular situation. <BR/><BR/>If she's a year, she's old enough to understand the concept of gentle touching versus being rough and hurting. Talk about it at non-nursing times, using examples (and toys). Then when she's nursing, if she's OK for the least little bit, mention that she's being gentle. As soon as she gets rough, say 'That's too rough and it hurts Mommy', remove her and give her to your husband (or put her down with a bottle). Keep trying for a couple of days; if she just refuses to be gentle, it's a sign that she's ready to be weaned (and that you're ready to have your boobs back). <BR/><BR/>I know I sound bossy, but it is exactly the advice I would give a good friend.<BR/><BR/>Good luck with whatever you do.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17882235346307802213noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7618574245608271938.post-35626681762823249312007-11-09T13:44:00.000-05:002007-11-09T13:44:00.000-05:00Aw - I feel your pain. My kids both self-weaned (m...Aw - I feel your pain. My kids both self-weaned (my Boy at two and a half when I got pregnant with the Girl and my milk turned...and my Girl when she turned two - on her own). There is something about a one year old who is growing and changing, who thinks she's okay to wean, but not ready to give it up. Yet. I waited it out with both mine, and they eventually both returned to good nursers. I don't regret my choice. But I feel your pain...good luck with your decision either way. ((Hugs))!Victoriahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15898415128748687415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7618574245608271938.post-67898826462820078172007-11-09T02:11:00.000-05:002007-11-09T02:11:00.000-05:00It sounds like you are stuck in a rut there. I don...It sounds like you are stuck in a rut there. I don't have any advice to offer, as my nursing record was abysmal with both kids having major problems and switching early (as in the first month). <BR/>Is it possible that she's not getting enough milk from you, and that's what's frustrating her? 30 seconds sounds much to short, if that's the way it is every time. <BR/>HeidiFamily Adventurehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00093360285075029799noreply@blogger.com